ACT #7 Parenting (Stress)

Annie Grace invites an experiment in Alcohol Free Living.  It’s been a couple weeks and today’s reading asked me to gain…

Awareness – Clarity – Turnaround of the statement: “I need a drink to handle my kids”.

I have three kids who are all old enough to drive.  Which makes them all able to have access to alcohol and drugs (and inhalants…and sex…and) – which could stress out any parent enough to “Drive them to Drink”.

This actually gave me an easy out in social circles to NOT drink.  At any given time, I might have to go out and “parent”.  {Grateful for the July evening when we were cold sober and got the call from the local police that our ‘driver’ was pulled over in a grocery store parking lot for a “teen prank”}. Not sure how that would have all gone done if neither of us was too drunk to drive to meet all of them.

I’ve been lucky.

I have been intoxicated with kids in the house…but thankfully (on my knees in gratitude to my guardian angels)… I have not been called on to have to “sober up quickly” to get my kids necessary life sustaining care.  I wasn’t necessarily responsible and aware ten years ago… I was just lucky.

{With cheeks red in shame, I did pack up my toddlers and drive home drunk one night…it still haunts me as to the all the ways that could have gone so many shades of shit show…including—most likely—losing my kids to social services had I been pulled over}

I do worry about how my actions model “adulting behaviors” for my kids.  I don’t want them making the same mistakes I made in my teens and twenties.

I’ve had a lot of this on my. mind for the past few years.  I am still trying to wrap my brain around how to tell them that what they have watched me do in social situations – Is NOT responsible adulting…. without preaching, or appearing to judge my peers – the adults- they have grown up with.  It’s sorta messy.  I’m pondering all of it.

For now it’s time for Turnaround:

  • I do NOT need drinks to handle my kids.
  • Drinks do NOT make me a better – less stressed – more attentive parent.
  • Alcohol robs me of being 100% present with my family.
  • Liquor DOES NOT teach my kids to be a happy person.  I do not want that for them.
  • Numbing myself…means I am numb for the people I love.
  • Alcohol creates STRESS it does not relieve it.

 

 

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