Last week, I had my first meeting with a Life Coach. About 15 minutes into our dialogue she asked me if I was familiar with Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. As a teacher, it is something considered every day when working with students. If the basic needs are not met, learning cannot occur.
I have extreme gratitude for my Physiological and Safety fulfillment. Having these needs met allows me to explore the upper deck of the pyramid this year.
Starting with “Love and Belonging”, I have mentioned my relationships could use a bit of “buffing.” I doubt it was an accident that Annie Grace sent an email highlighting a program on Relationship Development by Stacey and Paul Martino.
After hearing the podcast, I signed up and listened to Paul and Stacey’s webinar and had some amazing takeaways:
- Demand Relationships v Relationship Development – (WOW! what an aHa)
- Blame and Judgement = Damage
- Support Systems are Key to Change
- “Life is Happening FOR you … not TO you”
I committed to the 8-Week Quick Start Program and was introduced to Six-Core Human Needs by Tony Robbins.
As anyone who has read my blog knows, I use this (at times) to take notes for myself on things that I have learned. In honor of Stacey and Paul and the work they are doing, I’m not going to break down too much but to name the 2 new ideas for my toolbox. They are extremely applicable to the AF journey. (Which is why it is so easy to see why Annie Grace is a fan!)
The Spectrum of Change allows me to catch myself falling into old patterns of behavior so that triggers can be eliminated and I gradually move toward new brain rewiring.
The State-o-Meter identifies staying Above the 50% Line (aka Merry NOT going down the RABBIT HOLE). For homework, I was challenged to come up with a 50 WAYS LIST to shift from below to above “the line”. I got stuck and used google to help me with some new ideas–here’s a few:
- Blow out a candle
- Count Backwards from 100
- Repeat a mantra or sigh or OM
- Make a vision board
- Give or get a hug
- Blow on pinwheel
- Name the emotion
- Push against a wall
- Roll a ball under your feet
- Primal Yell
- Focus on 5 Senses 5-4-3-2-1-Grounding Technique
- Body Scan yourself…where am I tense?
- Push palms together for 5 seconds
- Chew Gum
- Release Verbally
- Arms to sky down to toes – Stretch
- Watch animals
- Smell something citrus
- Pectoral Door Stretch
Stacey and Paul Martino “Words of Wisdom” from Module 1:
“Magnificent friends are not found, they are developed.”
“To create something, you must know what you want.”
“Autopilot just gets us to an unknown destination.”