All We Need is…


Last week, I had my first meeting with a Life Coach.  About 15 minutes into our dialogue she asked me if I was familiar with Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.  As a teacher, it is something considered every day when working with students.  If the basic needs are not met, learning cannot occur.

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I have extreme gratitude for my Physiological and Safety fulfillment.  Having these needs met allows me to explore the upper deck of the pyramid this year.

Starting with “Love and Belonging”, I have mentioned my relationships could use a bit of “buffing.” I doubt it was an accident that Annie Grace sent an email highlighting a program on Relationship Development by Stacey and Paul Martino.

Here’s Annie’s Podcast with Stacey Martino

After hearing the podcast,  I signed up and listened to Paul and Stacey’s webinar and had some amazing takeaways:

  • Demand Relationships v Relationship Development – (WOW! what an aHa)
  • Blame and Judgement = Damage
  • Support Systems are Key to Change
  • “Life is Happening FOR you … not TO you”

I committed to the 8-Week Quick Start Program and was introduced to Six-Core Human Needs by Tony Robbins.


As anyone who has read my blog knows, I use this (at times) to take notes for myself on things that I have learned.  In honor of Stacey and Paul and the work they are doing, I’m not going to break down too much but to name the 2 new ideas for my toolbox.  They are extremely applicable to the AF journey.  (Which is why it is so easy to see why Annie Grace is a fan!)

The Spectrum of Change allows me to catch myself falling into old patterns of behavior so that triggers can be eliminated and I gradually move toward new brain rewiring.

The State-o-Meter identifies staying Above the 50% Line (aka Merry NOT going down the RABBIT HOLE).  For homework, I was challenged to come up with a 50 WAYS LIST to shift from below to above “the line”.  I got stuck and used google to help me with some new ideas–here’s a few:

  • Blow out a candle
  • Count Backwards from 100
  • Repeat a mantra or sigh or OM
  • Make a vision board
  • Give or get a hug
  • Blow on pinwheel
  • Name the emotion
  • Push against a wall
  • Roll a ball under your feet
  • Primal Yell
  • Focus on 5 Senses 5-4-3-2-1-Grounding Technique
  • Body Scan yourself…where am I tense?
  • Push palms together for 5 seconds
  • Chew Gum
  • Release Verbally
  • Arms to sky down to toes – Stretch
  • Watch animals
  • Scribble
  • Smell something citrus
  • Pectoral Door Stretch

Stacey and Paul Martino “Words of Wisdom” from Module 1:

“Magnificent friends are not found, they are developed.”

“To create something, you must know what you want.”

“Autopilot just gets us to an unknown destination.” 







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